Adam Flores-Boffa washes his hands in his apartment's bathroom.
Adam Flores-Boffa washes his hands in his apartment's bathroom. Credit: Bonnie Arbittier / San Antonio Report

For most human beings, public restrooms are both a basic necessity and a continual source of unpleasantness. Germs abound and around every tiny corner lurks the possibility of horrible things you can’t unsee. We’re all thinking same thing: Get in, get out, wash your hands (hopefully), and do it all without touching anything. Even if you are working with a fully functional set of extremities, this can be a difficult task.

Being disabled, especially in a public space, is all about planning. You have to have a clear idea where you’re going. How are you going to get into the building? How are you going to get out? Can you do it by yourself? What about the bathroom?

The average wheelchair requires 32 inches for comfortable clearance. Most doors are between 28 and 32 inches so you often end up stuck in a door jam. Yes, the Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA) mandates accessibility requirements on public accommodations – but you don’t want to be the guy who goes around quoting ADA standards. Trust me, nobody likes that guy. Planning is definitely key.

If someone were to give out disability proficiency scores, I would flunk. Even after three years in a wheelchair, I still haven’t gotten the the hang of it, learning most every lesson the hard way. So, one afternoon while out shopping, I ignored nature’s call and instead decided to pop into my favorite department store. I’m not sure if it was the ice-cold sparkling water they offered me or perhaps the excitement of a rare sale on my favorite brand of shoe but I suddenly realized time was of the essence.

Now, there is no way to paint a picture of what happened without oversharing, so I beg your forgiveness in advance.

Success in the handicapped stall is all about the toilet-to-grab-bar ratio. A person needs enough space to use the grab bar to stand up and safely clear the wheelchair. This restroom fell dreadfully short. There was just no way to stand up without the risk of falling. So what to do? My mind went back a few years to a time when I was in the hospital, confined to bed. Begrudgingly, I had to learn to use a dreadful device known as a portable urinal – it looked like a half gallon plastic milk jug. This amazing piece of medical engineering makes it easier too pee in a lumbar position, but it’s still harder than you might think.

I started to consider my options. I had to improvise.

It was becoming increasingly obvious that holding it was not an option. I needed a plan. Luckily, for me, the modern-day American consumer can buy almost anything anywhere, especially in this particular store. My salvation was found in $12.95 worth of gum balls, packaged in a plastic cup.

I had my cup – soon to be a makeshift urinal – and I had a plan, so things were looking up as I headed for the men’s room. The only thing I had working against me was time. For somebody with a disability, rushing is not easy.

After a bit of fumbling, I got into position, tore open the package and dumped out the gum balls all over the floor. Undaunted, I completed the task at hand, and was relieved, so to speak, that I had averted disaster. Then the lights went out.

Literally. The lights actually went out. A motion detector, designed to turn off the bathroom lights when no one is moving and standing in the room, was the culprit. I made my way back across the dark room, crushing gum balls as I went.  I reached the door only to find that it was so heavy, I couldn’t get it open. My earnest efforts to avoid an embarrassing situation had clearly going off the rails. Throwing my dignity down the drain, I pressed my face to the crack of the door and called for help. 

I had just about given up hope when a security guard burst into the bathroom. The lights came back on. 

“Is there a problem here?” the security guard asked loudly.

“Not anymore! Thank God you came when you did!” I replied.

“A customer complained someone was up here trying to entice women into the bathroom. Did you see anyone?”

“Really? How creepy. There was a guy in here when I came in. Kind of medium tall…with brown hair.” I replied, heading for the door.

“Were all these gum balls here when you came in?” he asked.

“Gum balls … how strange. You know I really didn’t notice?” I replied, still leaving.

I held the empty plastic cup in my hand, gripping it as hard as I could. It felt like everybody could tell what I had done, just by the look on my face. Or that the security guard was going to ask, “Sir, did you actually pee in that cup?” I didn’t even slow down to check out the rest of the sale before going back to buy my shoes.

“Will there be anything else today?” the friendly sales associate asked.

I glanced around briefly before extending my hand. “Yes, actually I will also take these gum balls.”

I wanted to share this story, because I think illustrates how much and how quickly things can go wrong in a world not built for the disabled. It would be great if we didn’t have to share these public spaces. If I had my druthers, I wouldn’t even share my bathroom at home, but we usually don’t have that luxury.

We absolutely have to humanize public spaces. It’s more than just ADA specs and precise measurements. It’s about making sure that everyone can go out in the world and shop, eat, live and get from point A to point B – all while knowing that if they need to “go,” they can.

Adam Flores-Boffa

Adam Flores-Boffa was born and raised in San Antonio. He graduated from UTSA with a bachelor's degree in political science, but not before enjoying a misspent youth living on both U.S. coasts. He now lives...